I dunno, maybe it's different when you try to conceive for years as opposed to months, or when you have to resort to expensive fertility treatments to get pregnant, but I just can't seem to relate to pregnancy complaints.
Sure, I have morning sickness, I want to sleep all day, food disgusts me, I have been struggling to not lose weight, to eat enough, drink enough, and move enough. I'm on "rest" orders and pelvic rest orders, and I'm really bored, but I am so happy to be in this position.
I'm delighted to finally know what morning sickness feels like. My Nurse Practitioner actually had to tell me what I had actually was morning sickness - I was blaming it all on "something I ate," "too much sleep," "too little sleep," "too hot," "too cold," "ate too much," "ate too little," "dehydrated," "drank too much water," etc. It's still difficult to actually acknowledge a lot of these things for what they are - real symptoms! Even the headaches I've been getting daily, it was my neighbor that told me my headaches were pregnancy related, I had no idea.
I know these feelings are not pleasant, but they are signs of pregnancy!
I go between bouts of insomnia at night and feeling so tired I can't move in the early afternoons. And with it all, I'm loving every minute of it!
I love that I have babies in my belly even though very soon that might become just one baby in my belly. I love that I can actually hold on to some hope of actually becoming a mother! I love that some day my house will be filled with the pitter-patter of little feet. I love the thought of growing old while watching my child(ren) grow. I love the possibility of having grandchildren.
I can't wait to outgrow all my clothes and have to wear maternity clothes even though I can't find anything I like, at least not yet. I love that Dave and I will have to budget more wisely and save $$ so we an afford children and afford to do our best by them.
I love that I can finally go to the baby sections of department stores and look at things I like and don't like instead of avoiding those areas with tears in my eyes. I love that I can look at other women with pregnant bellies and babies and feel a pure happiness for them without feeling sorry for myself.
I love that my doctor visits have gone from $120 for an ultrasound to check follicles in an effort to get pregnant to $0 for an ultrasound to see my babies! There is such joy in those ultrasounds now! I love that my health care provider loves pregnant women and offers excellent coverage for people having babies even though it means lots of appointments, classes, and tests. I love that my doctor wants me to get regular blood tests and urinalysis. I love that I am in the "pregnant" category and get to experience all these tests, even those that aren't so pleasant.
I love that people will no longer ask me when I'm having children and/or if I am considering it and/or why I don't have children.
I love that I'll have a big belly in the summer heat, though I do worry that the heat might be a little dangerous so I'm planning methods now for cooling off when I'll need it. Still, I love that I'll get to wear summer (icky-spot-friendly) maternity clothes!
I am just so very grateful to be in this position, I wouldn't dream of spoiling a minute of it by wishing I wouldn't have this symptom or that symptom. I feel bad seeing that so many others aren't so empassioned by their pregnancies. I guess it's all relative.